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I am back from my summer fallow period of laying on the floor and begging for fall to come early, or rather, I’ll be back until the…

Sep 17, 2024

Sep 17, 2024

A Letter from My Mother

You were never a child. Not really. Not in the way other children are. Clingy, needy little things. You I could put in the arms of people…

5d ago

Background: A purple and peach watercolor in rough vertical lines. Text: Please note, this is a work of fiction. If my mother had actually written me a letter, I would have agonized until my next therapy session before burning it without reading it.

5d ago

5 Years Later — A Different Kind of Grief

In recounting the story of how I came to cut contact with my parents, the first thing that jumps out at people, the first comment I get, is…

Jun 1

Image: A winding and empty two lane road, surrounded by trees and mist. Circular text box that matches the misty atmosphere. Text: My parents told me indirectly my entire childhood that I would never be someone they could care for. It’s only now, five years later, that I believe them. “Five Years Later — A Different Kind of Grief

Jun 1

Self-Harm — Ten Years Later

It’s been ten years since I last self-harmed. Scars that were once raised, purple, and angry are now one shade lighter than my skin tone…

May 15

Image: Background — Red, maroon, oxblood and pink speckled background that looks like a rust formation. Maroon text box with white text. Text: If it’s worth anything to anyone, if you’re reading this in need of encouragement, pick up the shovel, start the work. You don’t have to live like this forever. “Self-Harm — Ten Years Later”

May 15

Therapy Updates: Moving Forward

At the time of writing, I’m about 90 days out from my first session with Glinda. We’re past the rapport building portion of our work…

May 1

Image: A wall painted with a black, red, and grey geometric shape similar to an arrow. Grey arrow text box. Text: But as most people with trauma already know, there’s a mile wide trench between understanding that cognitively and making my body respond accordingly. “Therapy Updates: Moving Forward”

May 1

Stone Tape Theory

I’ve been reading Judith Herman’s Trauma and Recovery, and it’s been a strange experience. Seeing the symptoms I thought were unique to my…

Apr 15

Background: Tan and crumbling stone wall Foreground: Grey blue circular text box. Text: I have more hope now, and I have more appreciation for the fact that my survival was never guaranteed, that only I could decide whether or not everything I went through would be the end of me or the beginning. “Stone Tape Theory”

Apr 15

Therapy Updates: Hitting the Jackpot

After two years, dozens of reach out attempts, and four therapists worth of trying, I’ve finally struck gold. I got extraordinarily lucky…

Apr 1

Therapy Updates: Hitting the Jackpot

Apr 1

Traumagenic Binge Eating Disorder

Don’t worry, I’m also really tired of the answer always being childhood trauma.

Mar 15

Image: Blue, purple, and metallic gold watercolor background with light purple, circular textbox. Text: The reality is, the attempts I’ve made to do things the right way were unsuccessful because I wasn’t addressing the root of the issue, and because I was trying to use approaches designed by people who don’t understand that trauma around food and eating entirely changes the landscape of trying to live a healthier lifestyle. “Traumagenic Binge Eating Disorder”

Mar 15

Notes for the Necromancer

TW: Suicide, rape, death, intrusive thoughts

Mar 13

Notes for the Necromancer

Mar 13

Balance App Review

As previously established, I’ve done a lot of therapy with a lot of different therapists. Every single one of them, without fail, has…

Mar 1

Balance App Review

Mar 1

Vico Whitmore

Vico Whitmore

Trans CSA survivor leaving a trail as I stumble my way toward healing. Support me on ko-fi! https://ko-fi.com/vicowhitmore

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